…and a slip n slide on the back lawn

Lots of  online posting goes on at Christmas time… And it’s interesting when you look at them as a whole.

There are very few photos or comments about what gifts people actually received Christmas morning.. And yet the whole build up in the the weeks before can be solely about the buying of presents.

It’s the standard question leading up to the 25th…

“Have you finished your Christmas Shopping?”

This lead up , for me , means making sure each daughter has the same amount of presents, as well as calculating that each list is approximately of equal worth. It’s a lot to coordinate, but it’s just the way we do things. It’s also very organised , systematic, and not really a joyous, or merry process!!

Of course my children get too many presents…..I admit it…they get too much of everything!!!….but we love them, and love to see them excited and happy on Christmas morning. Never once have they not been thrilled to go along with the whole enchanted idea of all that goes along with Christmas….

There will come a time soon when Santa won’t come to them anymore…and the gift lists in my head won’t be as long!!! … but there are still a couple more Chrismas’s to come yet where the Santa pillowcases shall lie waiting to be filled on Christmas Eve, and discovered magically the next morning…

The present opening is a fun time, but the best part of the day is probably the afternoon, once the lunch has been cooked, eaten, and cleared away…and it’s time to sit back for a bit.

Only then does it feel that “All is calm, all is quiet..”

It’s then that the real Chrismas starts to happen..

This year we are at my parents, the girls Nanny and Poppy, and Christmas is made up of….. (Can be sung to Partrige in a Pear Tree… If you are clever!!)

“piles of wrapping paper,

fridges full of food ,

eskies full of ice,

music playing  loudly,

bathrooms full of girls stuff,

Laden washing lines ….

new electronic equipment ,

a jigsaw being done,

tables set then cleared

dishwasher working overtime,

Glasses of champagne

And a Slip n Slide on the back lawn…

Anyway… It all goes together to make Christmas….same, same, but always good….. and as I said to start with , have a look at the online posts… They don’t show the endless gifts that people received , but more likely the people they are with, and the things they are doing together…..

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All by myself….

Families are great…I love them!!! They are our reason for being…as mums and dads we live for them, we do stuff for them, we cater to them, we try and organise stuff they will enjoy…holidays, food, clean clothes, etc, etc.. As a parent , your head is constantly full of plans, ideas, timetables, scheduling, so the family will work as a unit, and everybody will get done, and have what they need, when they need it..and mostly it works pretty well. There will always be the occasional lost item, the occasional hiccup in routine, the occasional thing that just didn’t go to plan…but generally the mums and dads of this world have it sussed…all organised , and things work well..

But people….we all know that the way a family functions is not due to just good luck!! No…it is all down to the excellent ‘filing systems‘ that are within the head of every parent.. They are like the secretary at a school..they know everything and everyone..and if they decide to have a day off…that school is going to be quite rudderless for the day.

There will be no one to answer the questions like

  • “Where is the….?”,
  • “What time do I have to ….?”
  • “Can you ….?”
  • “How do I ….?”

As parents we are totally used to answering all the questions, everyday, no matter how many there are, or how tricky they are…we just shuffle through the filing system and voila..out comes the answer, (not always the right one…but at least it’s an answer).

Our minds are full of everyone else’s  business…there isn’t that much room in there for our own thoughts, or that much time to do the stuff we actually just choose to do, rather than have to do.

I had a day and a half totally all to myself last week. I stayed by myself, went walking by myself, cooked for myself, went to the beach by myself.img_5471

There was absolutely no one else to do anything for, to organise stuff for, to find things for,  or even to talk to, it was really weird…but really great !!!

My whole day and night was totally mine…I didn’t have to do anything to suit anyone else, or even consult anyone else. It was fantastic!

However, not for a minute would I want to do it all the time .! I was very aware of how little I had talked.. at home I’m talking all the time, even if it’s just to the dogs…they are excellent conversationists! But by the end of my day spent  by myself, the silence was kind of deafening ….

True…the fact that I had time to think my own thoughts for a few hours was really refreshing…. but for now, I’m happy with everyone else’s crazy thoughts taking up space in my head..any more than a day by myself and I’d probably run out of things to think!!